The purpose of this step is to determine what is witnessable by others versus what could be going on only in your head—the latter is the part we can control, and therefore it can lead us to achieve our goals.
With regard to the goal or issue you are taking on, take a look at the current state of affairs. If you didn’t have to worry about being diplomatic, politically correct, or using the right words, how would you answer the questions below?
Some people have a hard time putting their view into words—answering these questions will help determine your current view of the situation. By separating the facts about a situation (that can be witnessed by other people), you’ll know that what remains reflects your view.
Here is an example. Let’s say you are frustrated because you haven’t gotten the promotion you want. You’re considering marching into your boss’s office and asking for that promotion. You need the higher income it offers to pay for increasing expenses at home, and you’re tired of being undervalued.
Let’s do some research and consider the facts.
Learn more about separating facts and views in Chapter 3 of my book "Controlling the Pause"!